The origin of the sand ceremony is not completely known, but it has been a part of wedding ceremonies for thousands of years. Some legends say it was started by Native Americans, while others say it was started by Native Hawaiians. However, no matter which culture started it, it has remained a very popular trend to replace the unity candle ceremony.
Have three vases set up on a table with two filled with sand which can be different colours. The groom pours first to symbolize the foundation of the marriage. Like the foundation of a house, its purpose is to show how the man builds a strong base to the relationship. The bride then begins to pour her sand on top of the groom’s to symbolize the support she gives her husband. It is also to show how the two colours of sand can mix together in harmony. Then both the bride and the groom pour the remainder into the centre vase at the same time. This is to symbolize equality in the marriage and the total combining of two lives into one. Some couples choose to leave a small amount of sand in each vase. The purpose of this gesture is to show that even though they are combining their lives, they are still individuals. Parents and children can also join in this ceremony, thus symbolizing the joining of two complete families.